Hey
guys, I hope your New Year is off to a good start…
So,
I was thinking about this and thought to ask; how will you feel if you
unexpectedly run into an ex? Should you have something or someone to show off?
Or will the lost emotions pop up all over again?
Break-ups,
tough as they can be, leave us with a strong desire to have better romantic
relationships. Little wonder then, how social media simply loves to prove how
terrible our ex was and how we hope they never find anybody as good as us…lol…On
the other side of the coin, the new girlfriend is obligated to demonstrate how
much of a better package she is than the girl from the previous relationship.
Most
of us are willing to accept that our partners have been with other people, but some
of us don’t want to know the details… or maybe we do. We get convinced that we need to know just a
few things about the person- to understand “Le boo’s” taste, or perhaps to
appease ‘the amebo within’. What
is she like? Is she anything like me? What kind of clothes does she wear? Is she
the sassy, extroverted person with new adventures at every corner? Or the
clingy lovey-dovey who cannot say two words without saying my Baby did – or my
Baby said –?
When crossing the line between natural curiosity and
straight-up obsession, a lot of stalking is bound to happen and maybe you may
run into Miss Ex. What’s the worst that could happen?
The Timid Girl Zone
For a while stalking the ex- may be
interesting, however it can take a dive into a sad habit. At first you convince
yourself to be more demure, decent; encouraging yourself that the “good girl”
in you will put every ex out of business. Besides, it is not like you should give
a damn... right? Well, sister, an “I-don’t-care” attitude may be unsuccessfully
masking hidden dilemmas and self-esteem issues e.g. unshaved armpits, the ten-week-old
hairdo… It’s not inner beauty.
The Mean Girl Zone
We all have our
moments of cattiness against our fellow ladies, especially when we have marked
our territory and we sense a threat. The danger though, is letting it go into
over-drive. Fierce jealousy and even anger sets in, even when Miss Ex- is not hanging
around your circles or is seemingly trying to steal this guy from you. You also
feel compelled to trash-talk the babe as often as possible. You begin to work on
being super hot… and you make sure she knows it. Bodycon dresses to show your
full hips, expensive pant suits and heavily embellished abayas to show off your
luxurious tastes. Honestly you are not sure why you need to get this vicious.
You think you’ve confirmed your status. Or did you?
The Indifferent
Girl Zone
Running into the
Ex is no bother to you, she may as well live with you and you will go in and
out without a care in the world. There is not one jealous accessory on your
outfits either; easy flared skirts and breezy casual jeggings are your go to
outfits. As you throw on the Fedora, you think that if his exes are amazing
then he has good taste! Even when you run into the Ex, you leave more aware of
why it did not work out and more in touch with the power of your own kind of
beautiful.
The Best Friend
Zone
You heard about
Miss Ex, you stalked, and you met her and... She seems nice, there was a good
conversation going on. She has this flawless style thing going on that you
admire. Although you will try to keep your distance because sharing an ex is a very bizarre arrangement – the kind of complication you
will rather avoid. But she still tries to invite you to interesting events,
wants to introduce to some new people... It looks like an inescapable
situation, might as well dive in and
enjoy it. Turns out that you had a lot more fun than you expected and she
becomes your new BFF.
VERDICT
Whatever class you fall into, it
is important to note that as much as you may love to hate her, the ex-girlfriend
held some point of attraction for him. Being frumpy, creepy or mean does not make
you the better deal. So while you are dressing to impress your man, let your fashion
choices be more about how your style has evolved over time and less about
competing with the fashionista he used to date. Be comfortable in your own skin
and enjoy being the star that you are :) !
I will love to hear your thoughts...
