Some hashtags
that I see popping up on the internet these days are #loveyourself, #doyou and
so forth. This is quite refreshing because I remember back in the day flipping
through fashion magazines and hoping I will measure up, while all around me,
young ladies were developing low self esteem and eating disorders just to look
like the skinny, great figured, edited and glammed up ladies paraded on the
glossy pages; the lengths that certain ladies went to get nice clothes back in
the day and then the craze for plastic surgery to enhance certain facial and
body features! Not to say that these no longer exist, but I think that these
days the images representing beauty and confidence come in more diverse forms,
shapes, sizes and textures than just ‘skinny’, ‘fat’ or ‘long, straight hair’.
As a result, it is easier to feel validated and not judged for how we look-
leading to a better appreciation of one’s self.
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Whenever I
think of great style, the two words that come to mind are “happiness” and
“comfort”. And it’s true- at least to most of us- that the most
common image in terms of ‘style’ is that of a self-assured person who values
her happiness and is not afraid to bend or outrightly break the fashion “rules”
while coming up with great-looking results. I think that’s why our Snapchat
queens/Instagram influencers/Twitter celebrities/bloggers are so popular- they
keep us obsessed with their selections from modern tastes, infused into their
unique, personal style. It looks #flawless without trying too hard.
We use the
term ‘self-love’ when we copy pick out interesting pieces from trends
and mix/match them creatively in a way that shows that we care for and value
ourselves. I see self-love as a true outlet of personal contentment- both by
enjoying our sense of style, and gaining respect for ourselves and for others
around us.
Earlier
when I was getting on Instagram I tried to take it on by being laid back with a
few style looks I thought I had nailed, but some did not look right. I questioned
whether Instagram style is indeed personal or perhaps for other people’s
appreciation.
With a bit
of research, I saw that the Instagram- worthy shot requires a good deal of
planning based on personal motivations-
either for personal values or even as a career option. Behind each perfect shot
are myriads of imperfect ones, endless poses, makeup on fleek, dressed to the
nines (with or without somewhere in mind to get to 😉), in front of specially selected
backgrounds and perfect lighting/editing. And to get a large followership, the
smart social media buff/self-lover knows to readily dish out reviews of
products, hacks and tips to achieve the said style. They know that as they show
self-love, they help others to do the same.
Self-love
fashion for me denotes:
1. Personal Style: You need to develop an
intentional and continuous art called personal style; and not just dance to the
tune of the Kim Kardashians or Vogue magazines of this world. A huge chunk of it
comes from understanding that style evolves and though it would be foolhardy to
blow all your savings on the hottest trends, it will be impractical to overlook
how the trends are coming and going! You can rather, take a bit of the trendy
theme to inject into your everyday style so you don’t feel left out.
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2. Self-care:
Who doesn’t like a nice warm and scented bath soak, complete with a glass of
wine after a long stressful day? But I’m talking more than the physical- you
also need to nourish your mind. Engage in a soul uplifting sessions every day
for at least 20 minutes. You could take out time to pray, read, do yoga, be
with family/friends or by yourself and whatever else can improve your mind space.
3. Take care of your body and accentuate your positives.
4. Have style goals and style right for the occasion.
5. Cultivate confidence and experiment with fit, colours and
trends.
6. Fashion is never that serious so don’t compete or put your
peace on the line. Appreciate who you are and what you have.
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Constantly
posting on social media is a profession and a lifestyle for some people as an
offshoot of self-love fashion. For every person though, your style significance
should not be based on the number of likes on your Instagram post or any 'sabi sabi' comments of some people you
interact with. Self-love fashion and creating personal style is like having
good manners – always be presentable and respectable at the occasion,
regardless of who nods their head or double taps their screen. Let your style
stand out, not just to grab attention but to present yourself in your most
confident and refined state.
Let 2018 be the year of self-love and I will be looking out
for your intentional fashion footprints👏!