Thursday 12 June 2014

WHEN YOU DO NOT LIKE YOUR MAN'S STYLE...




You may not be the Kim K of fashion, but you take note of the details of grooming and style... Or you may not really send your appearance but you appreciate it when le boo looks like a million pounds on the sidewalk or at  an event right beside you. He doesn't seem to mind that he has worn an oversized basketball vest to come pick you from your friend’s place, and you a dropped jaw from the spotted tiny underarm hole on his shirt when he laughed and raised his arm…..lol!

You are not the only one in the boat, however you love him more than what the clothes have said. You will however like that he takes note of those rooming details, maybe not just the hair carve and vest change. Truth is that a man is more courageous to go to war, than to begin a stock of what is torn in his closet. And even when he makes an attempt to keep clean and fresh, you may just wish he was more deliberate in his colour choices and purchases... 
Here's what you can do-

1. Compliment what you like on him: many people dress to cover up parts of their bodies they're ashamed of, and in the process choose tacky and poorly fitting clothes. Remind your partner that you like them just the way they are, recognize when he gets his style right, even if it's only the shorts that make sense. Tell him you like them, they'll give him an idea of the things you will like to see him in. Of course he will try to wear it again just to see u crack that gap-tooth smile. 

2. Guide him into the fashion context: give him an idea of the kind of look you would like him to portray especially when attending an event together, instead of imposing your style sense or Idris Elba's style sense on him. Let him see the picture and you both can follow up together.

3. Talk About what makes him comfortable or what determines his style: let him show you or tell you how he thinks when he wants to dress up. If you are expecting a detailed and elaborate description you might be very disappointed, because men are very simple and quite straight forward about whatever concerns them. However listen for non-verbal cues and ask questions (please do not be overbearing)



4. Purchase clothes: you could get as a gift something you will like to see him in. Let's hope it does not end up sitting under a box. When you go shopping together, you could suggest something you will like him to wear and to reach a compromise; he could select something for you as well. You both have to purchase/wear each other's suggestion, as a compromise.

Overall treat your man with respect, when it comes to solving his "girl-friend-diagnosed-style-problem". Clothes are only outward extensions of what you admire, his personality is what you will travel with as soul mates....*wink*

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